Gratitude is stage one in the Soul Scripting process for very good reason. If you establish a a broad, beautiful, abundant sense of gratitude then you can become much more resilient to life's ups and downs. I like to think of gratitude as the blue sky. If you spend time every day looking looking at the sky, noticing its beauty and feeling thankful for it, then on a day filled with grey clouds you will still be able to recall that beauty and feel thankful for the fact that the blue sky is up there somewhere. The clouds will blow through. Only the blue sky will remain constant. If you spend time on a gratitude practice you can make that your constant. A feeling of gratitude can brighten even the greyest of days.
If you practice feeling grateful and you do so often, then you'll come to know that warm fuzzy feeling as well as you know your comfortable bed. You'll be able to cosy up in it any time you choose. Here's one way to do that.
Write gratitude lists
Get yourself a tiny notebook - one that's easy enough to keep in your pocket and carry with you wherever you go. At some point every day, at least once a day, take the book out, write the date at the top of a new page and list 5 - 10 things that you are grateful for in that moment. The exercise is really that simple! The only additional suggestion I have is that you look in different places for things to be grateful for. So, one day you might focus on family - listing your mum, your dad, your partner, your dog, etc. You may spend a lot of time with family and find yourself listing them often. That's fine. That's great! However, after a few days why not focus on your body and list your heartbeat, your eyesight, your health...? How about focusing on the world around you and writing about the sun, the beach or the way you feel when you walk through the park on a crisp autumn day? There are many good reasons to list the same things often and many good reasons to look in new places for things to be grateful for. Try a balance of both. Just make sure to write at least 5 - 10 items every day for a month, however you're feeling.
What gratitude lists can do for you
If you're having a lovely day, it feels great to list all the things you are feeling grateful for; it becomes a celebration! If you're having a challenging day, it can feel good to read the list from that lovely day you had recently! Also, when writing your gratitude becomes a habitual practice, it becomes easier to do, even in difficult moments. If you're having one of those days where nothing is flowing the way you'd like it to then pausing, taking out your tiny notebook, reading back the last couple of days worth of entries and finding 5 things to be grateful for in that moment could just shift your vibration enough to help things flow more freely. Even if nothing about your day changes, you will have given yourself a few nice moments of respite.
When you begin, if you find yourself struggling to find things to be grateful for, you can always start by expressing gratitude for your breath, then work your way out from there. After all, if you're still breathing there are still things to be grateful for!
Over time, this practice could make it easier to deal with even the more challenging things that happen in life. Imagine, for example, that you write the name of a good friend on your gratitude list every day for 6 months. If you then hit a challenging time in that friendship, it will have no impact at all on those 6 months worth of pages. Even if the relationship breaks down you will still have pages and pages worth of gratitude expressed in black and white. In time, maybe reflecting back on those will help you to arrive at a place where you can feel grateful for the positive things you got from that interaction. That's just one example. I'd love to hear about how this practice influences your life.
So I invite you to try it; write a gratitude list of at least 5 - 10 items every day for a month. Maybe take a few moments to flick through your book every day or two as well and notice how that makes you feel. Please do get in touch if you have any reflections you wish to express.
Gratitude is the first of 6 stages of the Soul Scripting process. In an introductory session I will walk you through all 6, providing guidance and several exercises for each that will allow you to develop your own, at home practice. Find a workshop near you or book a Skype session.
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