This is an exercise designed to move you closer to a place of honest, deep self love. It can bring up feelings of fear but remember, it's just writing, writing is just squiggles on a page and you can rip up and throw away that page when you've finished. This works best when you don't read it through first but, instead, follow each instruction as you go.
Begin with two loose pieces of paper. At the top of one write the heading 'Reality'. At the top of the other write the heading 'Desire'.
Start with this piece of paper and list anything that you want out of life, or that you want to be but don't think that you fully embody at the moment. For example, if you have aspirations to get healthier, earn more money, have a baby, meet a partner or anything else write that down here. Add qualities to this list as well.
Write in the present tense. So instead of 'I want to lose 3 stone' 'I will stop smoking' or 'I'd like to be less judgemental of others' make it 'I am slim and healthy', 'I am a non-smoker' and 'I view others without judgement but with love.'
Now gab the second piece of paper. Make a list of where you are now. What are the counter points to the things that you wrote on the other page? If the desire page said 'I am a non-smoker' add 'I am a smoker' to this page. Where your desire page read 'I get up early and work out every morning' perhaps your reality page reads 'I often sleep in and I work out a few times a week' (that would be one of mine!).
CHANGE YOUR PERCEPTION
Take as much time as you need to complete these lists. When you've finished, change the headings. Cross out 'Reality' and write 'Me'. Cross out 'Desire' and write 'Someone Else'. That someone else doesn't exist. They may do, at some point. They may not. Perhaps some aspects of them might come into being and others won't. Right now, however, 'Me' is who you are and what you have. So now, rip up that piece of paper with 'Someone Else' written at the top. That's not you. It's a fiction.
It's time to learn to love 'Me'. The things you have written on this list are the aspects of you that need the most love. Only by owning, embodying and offering compassion to every aspect of ourselves can we begin to heal and change. So take each aspect in turn. Can you love this aspect of yourself? Can you love who and where you are? Can you perhaps even find gratitude? Meditate on each one without judgement and without trying to throw it away or change yourself. Maybe choose one point on this list and attend a Soul Scripting workshop with the intention to heal anything that needs healing in relation to it. There are lots of ways you could go but simply bringing yourself to this point and showing loving kindness to yourself while you're here is an important step.
This is a great exercise to try before you begin any period of rest and relaxation - such as right before you leave the office for the week or before you head to the airport for a holiday. I also tend to begin Soul Scripting workshops with this exercise because it helps people to clear out anything they might have been carrying around in their brain but they aren't going to deal with during the session, leaving them with a little more head and heart space, as well as clearly marking the writing session ahead as time for creativity.
How to de-clutter
It's quite simple really. Grab two pieces of paper. At the top of the first write 'To do list'. Yep, you're literally going to start by writing yourself a to-do list. This is arguabley the most simple of all writing exercises but its power should not be underestimated.
Begin to list anything that's taking up space in your head that you really don't want to forget but that might detract from your r&r. There is only one major guideline - try to make this a list of positive actions. Things like 'buy dinner on the way home ' and 'pick up the kids at 6pm' go on this list. Items that start with 'don't worry about...' 'try not to think about...' and the like are negative actions. Leave them off. We'll deal with them with list number two. Make your listed items as humble or as grand as you like.
The purpose of this list is to ensure that the things you can't afford to forget are committed to paper. Once they are you won't be worried about the possibility of forgetting them but they'll be recorded in hard copy so you can clear that head space. And don't try to clear the head space. The act of writing the list out by hand will accomplish that - you'll find that I actively discourage thinking of any kind during in all Soul Scripting exercises. Give your brain a rest. You need it a lot less frequently than you might think. Once the list is complete you can leave it on your kitchen table before heading to the airport, on your desk before leaving the office on a Friday, or just to one side as you begin your Soul Scripting practice, safe in the knowledge that it will be there for you when you need it. In the meantime, forget all about it's contents.
List number two is a list of anything taking up space in your head that isn't serving you. If it has no positive action attached to it but you are worried about it, get it down on this page. Let's say, for example, that you just went to an interview and you're waiting to hear whether you got the job. Try not to give yourself instructions like 'don't worry about not getting the job'. Your brain will read 'WORRY'. Instead, be candid about what you are actually feeling. Admit what is present so that you can unburden yourself. Write 'I am worried that I won't get the job. In fact I'm worried that I won't get any job and I'll lose my house'. Writing it might feel scary but, believe me, the scarier it feels on the way out the better it will feel when you destroy this list! By writing the worry you might identify a positive action attached to it, so maybe you go back to list one and add 'follow up with the new company on Monday'. The important thing is to separate the worry from the positive action. Write the action on the 'keep' list because that could serve you well. The concern is doing nothing for you, so let's get rid of it.
Once all the worries that come to mind are listed - and they might include anything from the state of your health to the state of world politics - tear that list to shreds and throw it away. You might even choose to burn it, if you can do so safely. Release your worries like the outdated baggage they are and move on to what's next.
That's just a little taster. If you're about to take a break or start a creative practice of any kind it's a nice way to begin. If you'd like to try Soul Scripting check out what I have coming up. I run regular workshops in the Northwest of England. You can also contact me to schedule private, group or corporate sessions in person or via Skype - gill @ diddid.co.uk.
I started a YouTube channel and from now on I'll be uploading Soul Scripting exercises to it from time to time, so you can work through them yourselves at home. My first attempt is far from expert but if I waited until it was perfect I'd never have got it online. So here it is - my first introductory video, explaining the concept of Soul Scripting - Writing for Wellness.
It is not only possible but in fact relatively easy to turn the humble pen and paper into powerful tools for mental and emotional wellness.
I know that sounds like a bold claim but then I also know that you are a part of the collective consciousness – a being of infinite beauty, power and wisdom – and that you have the answer to every question you may ever care to contemplate firmly within your grasp. Even if you don’t know that yourself, I am sure of it. There’s no need to take my word for that either. I’m going to give you the techniques you need in order to prove it to yourself. Read the rest on spiritualbliss.com.
Good food, sunlight and time in nature can all be medicine when we need them, most of us know that, but when was the last time you reached for a pen and paper to help make you feel better?
I encourage everyone to write regularly, somewhere private, words that they don’t feel pressured to share with anyone else. When you remove the need to show the finished product you become completely free to open up, let your words flow and really engage with your inner voice. However, after years of schooling, learning to write outside of the rules is an art in itself. Check out my five of my top tips for turning writing into Soul Scripting - read this full article on Rainbow City Healing.
Just a little bit of what's going on.