This is an exercise designed to move you closer to a place of honest, deep self love. It can bring up feelings of fear but remember, it's just writing, writing is just squiggles on a page and you can rip up and throw away that page when you've finished. This works best when you don't read it through first but, instead, follow each instruction as you go.
Begin with two loose pieces of paper. At the top of one write the heading 'Reality'. At the top of the other write the heading 'Desire'.
Start with this piece of paper and list anything that you want out of life, or that you want to be but don't think that you fully embody at the moment. For example, if you have aspirations to get healthier, earn more money, have a baby, meet a partner or anything else write that down here. Add qualities to this list as well.
Write in the present tense. So instead of 'I want to lose 3 stone' 'I will stop smoking' or 'I'd like to be less judgemental of others' make it 'I am slim and healthy', 'I am a non-smoker' and 'I view others without judgement but with love.'
Now gab the second piece of paper. Make a list of where you are now. What are the counter points to the things that you wrote on the other page? If the desire page said 'I am a non-smoker' add 'I am a smoker' to this page. Where your desire page read 'I get up early and work out every morning' perhaps your reality page reads 'I often sleep in and I work out a few times a week' (that would be one of mine!).
CHANGE YOUR PERCEPTION
Take as much time as you need to complete these lists. When you've finished, change the headings. Cross out 'Reality' and write 'Me'. Cross out 'Desire' and write 'Someone Else'. That someone else doesn't exist. They may do, at some point. They may not. Perhaps some aspects of them might come into being and others won't. Right now, however, 'Me' is who you are and what you have. So now, rip up that piece of paper with 'Someone Else' written at the top. That's not you. It's a fiction.
It's time to learn to love 'Me'. The things you have written on this list are the aspects of you that need the most love. Only by owning, embodying and offering compassion to every aspect of ourselves can we begin to heal and change. So take each aspect in turn. Can you love this aspect of yourself? Can you love who and where you are? Can you perhaps even find gratitude? Meditate on each one without judgement and without trying to throw it away or change yourself. Maybe choose one point on this list and attend a Soul Scripting workshop with the intention to heal anything that needs healing in relation to it. There are lots of ways you could go but simply bringing yourself to this point and showing loving kindness to yourself while you're here is an important step.
'While even good advice can feel overwhelming at times, the loving presence of another person will almost always provide comfort and the opportunity for personal growth. It is worth reflecting upon this simple, powerful act with gratitude.'
I wrote this article during a stint as a guest writer for spiritualbliss.com last year. Click here to visit Spiritual Bliss and read the full piece.
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